As harsh as it sounds, you need to. Because the faster you realize this, the faster you can get to being happy.
So, you broke up. You didn’t want it to end this way, but it did. For some reason he wasn’t happy, or he just didn’t want a relationship anymore. It’s hard to come to terms with, I know. But the worst thing you can do is pretend that he cares.
Sure, he might be the sweetest guy on the planet. But for your own wellbeing, just know, or at least pretend, that he doesn’t care about you.
He doesn’t care about the new haircut you got. Or the new tattoo. He’s not going to notice the tan or the new clothes. If you even go as far as getting a new boyfriend, he’s still not going to care.
And why should you care if he cares or not? If he didn’t care before, it’s likely that he’s not going to now. And then you wasted your time trying to please someone who has no interest.
You did all of these things for him. Not for you. For someone who ended it in the first place. For someone who didn’t care. So what do you get out of it? Anxiety. Worrying about what he’ll think and if he’ll like it, and more importantly, if he’ll say anything to you.
And then you realize that you’ve been all about him for so long that you forgot about yourself. You get even more upset when he doesn’t realize these new things about you, and then you’re back to being just as hurt again. The one place you were trying to avoid.
So if you’re going to do something, do it for you. If you’re going to dye your hair, do it because you want to, not because he always wanted you to. If you’re going to buy new clothes, buy the ones that you like, not the ones that you think he would like.
When you start doing things for you, you’ll be happier. You don’t have to worry about what he thinks or wants anymore. You can do whatever makes you happy.
So don’t worry about if he cares what you’re up to or not. It’s best if you pretend he doesn’t. Because then you can live your life for yourself, and you don’t have to worry about anyone bringing you down. This makes getting to that “finally happy” stage a whole lot quicker.